Just Love Yourself!

True Self Love Gives You The Fortitude And Grit To Withstand Any Difficulty In Life.

In the movie, Jab We Met, when Kareena Kapoor says, “Main Apni Favourite Hoon”, I loved it. The reason being, that I identify with her completely. My love for myself, is my solid inner foundation that means no matter what is going on around me or how anyone else is feeling, I know fundamentally at my core that I am ok, enough, meant to be here and loved. My self-love restores the balance and bring me back to feeling aligned with my natural, empowered and loving state.

Oscar Wilde once said, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”

Which means, it’s a not a destination – it’s an everyday practice.

Self-love is the complete acceptance of who, and what you are – the honest appreciation and affirmation of yourself. It’s fully knowing – no matter what you do, or neglect to do, right or wrong – that you’ll always love yourself and be true to who you are – no matter what. Magically, it ultimately translates to good health, great self-esteem, happiness, total balance and well-being.

Happy people spread happiness. Similarly, you simply cannot take care of others until you take care of yourself first. When you truly, unconditionally love yourself, you can move through the world with deeper compassion for others, with a deep sense of joy and pleasure within the act of giving.

It is so easy to pour our love into others, without realising that we are not feeding ourselves that same love. Self-love is something that one has to conscientiously practice each and every day. I believe that the moment one begins to practice the art of self-love is the very moment you begin to receive love in life in every form imaginable.

Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first. No one will ever make you a complete person except yourself. Learn to love who you are. Embrace who you are. When you have an unconditional love for yourself, others can sense it. No healthy relationship is built to stand on an incomplete foundation. Here is my personal prescription for Self-Love:

  1. Mindfulness! When you are mindful of your own thoughts, feelings, and words, you begin to focus on yourself and not on the perception of others of you.
  2. Self-care is NOT selfish! Take care of yourself – mind, body, and soul. Devote some time each day to yourself!
  3. Positive affirmations –are what I like to call food for the soul and my new best friends. Write them down, tell yourself about your good qualities or what ever works for you-positive affirmations will fuel your mind and spirit and will set the tone for the day.
  4. Comparison is the thief of joy – DON’T DO IT!
  5. Eliminate toxicity in your life. It’s this simple…if it isn’t nourishing your mind, body, or soul, get rid of it!
  6. Learn to forgive yourself. As humans, we are our own worst critics. We are not built to be perfect. We make mistakes- reflect, acknowledge, correct and move on. Be gentle with yourself.
  7. Live your life with purpose! If you continuously set goals for yourself and work hard to achieve them, you will develop an appreciation and respect for yourself that no one else can give you.

Kriti Makhija,


The Outstanding Speakers’ Bureau